Are you Busy? I get it…

Do you feel like you are too busy?

The truth is, we are probably never going to get less busy.

Not if you are anything like me. 

Like you I have many roles. A wife, mom, grandma, daughter, sister, mother in law, friend, mentor, coach, business owner and I could go on and on. 

What we need to do is change our thoughts and realize that being busy is okay. But there is busy in a good way and busy in a bad way. We have to focus on being more organized and approach the day better. We need to plan more. We need to limit the length of the day. 

I have worked way too many 12 + hour days, heck even 18 hour days. That is a lot. 12 hours is a lot. I used to tell myself it was okay to work that many hours day after day.  I was grinding hard, I was making a difference. I work well under pressure and I am a badass. No job or task is too hard. I love a challenge. I would do more, thinking I was becoming better, and keep crossing off one more thing on my to do list.  I needed to work this hard to be successful and change this many lives. I had the mindset that that is what successful people do. Isn't this what all successful people do?

Don't get me wrong we will have the occasional crazy day. Maybe even 15 hours. But I can tell you if you consistently do that your productivity will drop. 

Upon reflection, after so many 12, 15, 18 hours days, I was thinking why am I doing this to myself?? To eventually run out of steam and energy? To be affected mentally and physically? Honestly I was in denial until my body bitch slapped me in the face and then I was still in denial until I took another hit. My overall health was really being affected. My creativity was gone. I was so overwhelmed and stressed and just so unwell.  I was working so hard in the end but getting nothing accomplished because I am only human. My input was not equalling my output. 

Okay body…….I am starting to listen. 

I am learning that I can be my own worst enemy. 

Honestly I was holding myself back as well as my business. 

This is hard. But that is okay!

Do I have this all figured out? Definitely not!!  I  am  slowing down and I would be lying if I told you this was by choice. I was forced to slow down by my body. It was scary. It still is scary.   I am taking one day at a time and learning to be more disciplined in my time and quit being a time optimizer (haha!). I think I am superhuman and that I am able to get way more done than there are hours in the day. I am learning to breathe and take one day at a time and even sometimes one minute or one hour. I am worth it! 

I know if my cup is full there is more of the awesome Toni to love on the world and spread kindness and change lives.

 I know right now I will do anything to heal. So even though slowing down was not my choice originally. It is my choice now. I will heal. I am healing. 

So listen to yourself. Listen to your body. Our bodies carry so much wisdom if we just listen to them.